Why do some people never admit they are wrong?

It is up to you how you respond to such people. The one mistake we must avoid is thinking of them as persistent and rigid. The typical reaction to realizing one is mistaken is to admit it, either fully or partially. Due to a fragile ego, some people refuse to admit they are wrong, even in the face of overwhelming evidence.

There is professional help available for people with low self-esteem.

If a person is unable to cope psychologically with being wrong, they may attempt to deny facts in order to justify their actions or beliefs.

Alternatively, when we talk about someone with a healthy ego, they develop an essential sense of self-love, self-worth, mental resiliency, and many other wonderful benefits. They are able to accept and process constructive criticism and view it as an opportunity to grow. Reasons for those people never admitting their wrongdoing

They Fear Retaliation

Some people live inside an eye-for-an-eye bubble where any wrongdoing they admit will — they feel — surely be revisited upon them.

So the last thing they want to do is open themselves to such a painful option.

These are the people who haven’t quite learned to trust in others.

One way to deal with them is to set firm boundaries around your boundaries, i.e., don’t let them get so close to the core things that matter to you that they’ll be able to upset you.

One would hope we might be able to get this type of person to learn to trust, but unless we have the wherewithal to tame a lion using twigs, their journey to trust, honesty, and vulnerability will be a long, arduous one.

They Fear Losing Someone

There’s a twisted logic in thinking, “I’ve hurt you, but making amends will further hurt you to the point that you’ll go away.”

One of the most barbed fears behind a reluctance to apologize or admit wrongdoing is the paralyzing thought of losing someone or something because of it.

This fear haunts people who require constant reassurance and can be dealt with by being as open and honest as possible.

Lead by example. If they see that we have yet to bolt from their lives from our mistakes, they might more readily admit their own.

They Fear Being Seen As A Weak

For something that takes as much courage to accomplish as admitting wrongdoing or apologizing, western societies spend a lot of time attaching weakness to the act.

“Stand your ground, don’t back down, don’t be a punk” are just a few of the toxic expressions you might hear.

Yet, apologizing isn’t akin to submitting to another, or feeling the overriding, constant need to protect one’s tender underbelly.

Admitting that you’ve wronged someone takes being compassionate and respectful enough of yourself and the others in your life to admit you trust them with who you are.

Confidence like that should never be seen as a weakness.

They fear not being perfect

One wonders how much less daunting life would be if every single person awoke every morning and took a moment to actively say to themselves, “I am human.”

We all make mistakes. We all make poor judgments. We all do things we might not do in hindsight.

Being able to see that and work to fix our errors requires grace and compassion.

Those who feel they must never be seen as anything less than “perfect” are hiding fears and insecurities that do nothing but serve to drive a wedge between them and others.

They enjoy Chaos

There are those who, for their own warped reasons, actually enjoy presiding over misery.

Withholding and wrongdoing feed them. Narcissists do it all the time. Masochists too.

How, then, to deal with someone intent on creating situations requiring their apology?

Simple: one doesn’t.

As with those who haven’t learned to trust others, it’s prudent to actively maintain boundaries against these people.

Actively because they will look for cracks and crevices in all walls and slide in so quickly that the large lump of drama they intend to unload will catch you off guard and unawares.

If such monsters of chaos can manipulate you into apologizing for their wrongdoing, they’re satiated in feeling they’ve earned their emotional wages for the day.