Why do brutally honest people don’t give a shit about fake motivation?
When you are on the right path, you don’t need motivation. Motivation needs you. Because the Universe knows you are unique the way you think, the way you feel, the way you react to provocative things or deceptive talk. Motivational speakers hardly imagine how much it takes to be on the right path. You also know underlying facts about what people show you or tell you; often you find what they talk about, and they actually don’t act according to their talks. You only know what you can achieve in your own way & time and everybody does the same thing but some motivational speakers never admit their true way of achieving success publicly.
Right, you got the point, suspects are true; they are only talk sellers. However, as I grew up I realized all this external motivational stuff was only temporary. And almost all the motivational speakers were nothing but ‘businessmen’ who were doing their best to make money by selling their ‘talks’ and their books, CDs, DVDs & Programs — to pay their bills.
The real motivation, drive, and fighting spirit only came from within the person. And that was when I totally and completely stopped listening, watching, and learning from motivational speakers. And since then I have only studied the Science behind what we do, who we are, and how we can manipulate our senses to achieve the optimal state. Since then — I have never looked back.
Nowadays motivation is way more to advertisements than inspiring anyone. If a very wealthy person talks always about intense hard work every time to become wealthy I am not telling you working hard isn’t make you successful but is he not also emphasizing or searching for a cheap labor market by low pay to fulfill his own desire. Human beings aren’t robots, they need enough sleep, rest & mental peace to work wisely. Here are some examples of fake motivation.
You’ve got to have big goals if you want to get anywhere! — shoot for the stars, the saying goes, and you just might land on the moon. The trouble is, there’s no oxygen on the moon. High expectations can create undue pressure and a reason to feel unmotivated when we don’t hit our ridiculously high and self-imposed expectations. It’s not sexy, but it’s true: the path to performance actually starts with doing the doable. There’s nothing wrong with having high expectations, but when you tie your identity to your ability to achieve, what happens? What if you could say, and mean it, that “Come what may, I’m ok?” Would that give you the freedom to try new things, without attachment to that big hairy audacious goal? No one performs well with a gun to their head. The goals are good. But attaching to goals, and tying your self-worth to numbers, titles, education, and achievement, can rob you of your ability to find creative solutions.
I overcame (cancer, an earthquake, the Capital Riots, and some other trauma) and you can, too. Inspirational stories of those that overcome obstacles are very motivational. However, overcoming cancer, COVID, or any other disease, might just be a fortunate circumstance. The misunderstanding here is called “survivor bias.” “I lived through _____”, the reasoning goes, “so I have a hero’s journey to share with you”. But is that true? Watch out for superhero stories told by human beings. Consider a woman at the peak of life, an aerobics instructor with boundless energy. She’s spent a lifetime working in the fitness industry, with her radiant health admired by many. But when cancer came calling, she was unable to beat it. In spite of grit, determination, good diet, discipline (and lots of chemos), she was taken from her family far too soon. (Miss you, Mom). She didn’t fail where others succeeded. She wasn’t deficient — just as survivors aren’t always something more than the rest of us. Don’t fall into the trap that survivors have superpowers. Overcoming obstacles can inspire, that’s true. But just know that overcoming natural circumstances isn’t always a story of talent, skill, or perseverance. Watch out for survivor bias.
Discipline is the key to success — this one is actually pretty good. Consider your own experiences: remaining committed to what you want is an important way to get it. After all, actions (not moods or mindset) determine results. But what if discipline was just as simple as remembering what you want?
This factor is quite overlooked because many people do not realize when they apply excessive exaggeration in order to persuade or in this case motivate. The way that this is applied is by either exaggerating the reward that is waiting at the end of the goal, let’s be realistic for a moment as most of the time in life you will work at a 10/1 ratio which represents something such as working 10 hours for 1 dollar. A better example would be the progression in sports, as this is a constant fight to remain in the first place. All of the fighting and pain that you go through will only seem worth it by the psychological factor implemented by the social group around you when truly, it is never worth it. I do not mean to be demotivating or say that pursuing a lifetime of sportsmanship isn’t worth it but we need to be more misleading with our minds in order to motivate our own consciousness.
The second type of exaggeration that is used in deceptive motivation is when implying the ‘huge’ ability of a certain person to succeed. A person may have the potential but, not always the ability to reach a certain goal. It is obvious that you will not tell that person that they do not have what it takes to reach the end goal as this will kill all the motivation that there is and any future potential of gaining back interest in pursuing that certain goal. We use this type of exaggeration in order to push a person over his limits.
